Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are. Your reputation is who people think you are
Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.
Can you hate someone for what they have done, but still love them for whom they had been?
— Jodi Picoult, Nineteen Minutes
One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others.